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Giving Thanks for What We Have


As we celebrate the Thanksgiving holidays, I’d like to share a personal mantra with you that I find to be true: In order to enjoy a future of abundance and happiness, you need to express gratitude for what you have in the present. 

For many of us, Thanksgiving this year may be different than previous ones. If for any reason you find yourself unable to celebrate the holiday enjoying the traditional feast with loved ones this year—or even if you’re struggling to make ends meet—it’s okay to feel frustrated, sad, or scared.

But, what if for this year’s Thanksgiving, we can learn to turn our anxiety into awareness?

As I reveal in my popular LinkedIn Learning course “How to Train Your Brain for Happiness”, happiness isn’t a promise; it’s a practice! One proven and practical tool for achieving physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being is to practice gratitude.

As the word “Thanksgiving” implies, the significance of this holiday is to give thanks for what we have. It’s about expressing the proverbial “attitude of gratitude”—an idea advanced by timeless spiritual wisdom and recently affirmed by science.

The Science Behind Gratitude

So, how exactly does gratitude make us happy and healthy? How can learning to give thanks be key for our well-being?

Research now recognizes how gratitude is one of the most powerful and healthiest of human emotions. Studies at University of Miami, UC Davis, and other universities successfully demonstrate that remembering to be grateful for what we have in life can greatly outweigh any sadness, stress or challenges we might currently experience. In fact, new studies into the brain show that gratitude is one of the easiest and healthiest ways to experience overall well-being.

A 2009 study by the National Institutes of Health observed that brain scans of participants who expressed the emotion of gratitude—versus those in the control group that did not—experienced more activity in the brain’s hypothalamus. An active hypothalamus is helpful since it regulates sleep, digestion, and metabolism. More importantly, the study concluded that people who regularly express gratitude are less susceptible to anxiety and stress.

Here’s another way of looking at it. Despite the circumstances that life throws to us, when we express gratitude it’s as if our brain steps on the “emotional brakes” on the negative thoughts that bombard our mind. Suddenly, the emotions of sadness, self-pity or stress—that were driving us into anxiety or overwhelm—are slowed and enable us to cope with stressful situations and be more resilient in the face of adversity.

By reminding yourself of all that you’re grateful for in life, it does something remarkable for your brain—it tricks it into focusing on the positive, and dwelling less on the negative.

Make Gratitude Contagious

Gratitude also has a powerful social benefit. It helps us to feel more connected to others. Just saying the simple words “thank you” can lift us out of our own individual concerns and serve to remind us of the joy and happiness that others bring to in our life. Expressing gratitude not only benefits the recipient of our appreciation, but oneself.

A second reason to pause and express gratitude is that even simple expressions of gratitude can have long-lasting effects on those who receive them. When people feel valued, they are more likely to help others.

Just as we lift weights to build muscle, brain science affirms that our brain is a muscle that can be trained and developed. As we cultivate gratitude, we automatically experience greater enthusiasm and contentment.

Try it out for yourself. Say “thank you” to five different people every day for five consecutive days. Embody a genuine feeling of gratitude as you do so, perhaps even offering a smile to that person. After the fifth day notice how you feel. Chances are, you’ll experience a remarkable boost of inner happiness.

Start a Gratitude Practice

What’s one thing you’re grateful for that happened to you today?

In my book “Science of a Happy Brain” I share many exercise for achieving happiness. Here’s one simple and easy-to-use gratitude tool that you can incorporate into your daily life and even start this Thanksgiving.

  • Jot down on a sticky note three to five things for which you are grateful.
  • Notice if there are any you take for granted.
  • Write two or three more post-it notes with the same or different items and place each one someplace where they are visible throughout your day. The more places the better.

This Thanksgiving I personally give thanks to my health and well-being during this pandemic. Having a loving family and steadfast friends is a continuous source of my gratitude.

Lastly, I’m so blessed and grateful to each of YOU for granting me the wonderful opportunity to be in service and make a difference in the world.

Wishing you and your loved ones a healthy, safe, and wonderful Thanksgiving!

Dr. Jay

“Your Happiness Professor”
FB/IG/TW @docjaykumar
Author, Science of a Happy Brain
Instructor, “How to Train Your Brain for Happiness” (LinkedIn Learning online course)

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“No external conditions are required for happiness. Happiness is who you are!” —Dr. Jay Kumar